10 tips for dealing with your emotions

Note: be sure to discuss your feelings with your medical team. They can suggest tips and therapeutic options that can help.

The following 10 tips may help you deal with your emotions in a more effective way.

1. Inform yourself and learn new ways of dealing with your feelings

Look for information about the feelings you are experiencing. This is something you can do by yourself. Try searching the internet for advice and background information. You can also try reading books on the topic. But make sure you are getting your information from reliable sources.

2. Talk or write about how you are feeling

It’s a good idea to share your feelings with others. Talk to your friends, family, counsellors or a support group about what’s upsetting you. Some people feel uncomfortable talking about or sharing their emotions with others. If this is the case for you you could try writing your feelings down on paper. You can even tear it up afterward and throw it away if you like. The main goal here is to get your emotions off your mind.

3. Don’t blame yourself

Remember that anyone can get cancer. It sometimes just comes down to luck!
Some people believe they brought cancer on themselves by doing something wrong like drinking too much alcohol, smoking, eating too much meat or not getting enough exercise. Behaviours or unhealthy habits can indeed increase the risk of cancer. But not everyone who lives an unhealthy lifestyle develops it. Sometimes there is no obvious reason.

What’s important for you now is to focus on your current situation and the future. Positive thinking will help you a lot now.

4. All your feelings are valid

Do you feel sad or angry? If so, try not to bottle these feelings up. Accept your emotions as they are and understand that they are natural. On a bad day, you might even find yourself unable to move from your bed or feel that the only thing you want to do is cry. You don’t have to be ashamed of these feelings, they are completely normal as long as they don’t persist.
Just remember that tomorrow is a new day, you might find that your mood has been lifted and that you are able to laugh and enjoy your surroundings again.

5. Find ways to relax

Ask yourself what helps you to relax. Meditation, yoga or relaxation exercises can help. Or even a long bath or a walk in the park. Try to take time for yourself and enjoy it.

6. Stay active every day

Are you doing quite well so far? Do you feel strong and energised? If so, try to keep yourself active or get some exercise. Go out, meet some friends or go for a walk.
But remember not to overexert yourself. Listen to your body. Even small things like a short, gentle yoga session or a daily walk can help!

7. Do things you enjoy

Do you have any hobbies? At times, distracting yourself with things that you enjoy can also be a good strategy to rid yourself of troubling thoughts.

8. Make a schedule and a list of things you need to do

Make a schedule of all your appointments and plans. Setting a daily schedule can give you a sense of control.

9. Eat well and take care of yourself

Tasty, varied and regular meals can help you get through a tough day. Eat what you enjoy and what makes you feel good but try to maintain a balanced diet. Also, it’s best to avoid alcohol and cigarettes.

10. Take one step at a time, live day by day

Set yourself achievable goals. For example, ‘I’m going to get up today and go for a walk down the street.’ Or: ‘I’m going to call a friend for a quick chat today’. These can be big personal achievements if you find yourself struggling with everything right now. Give yourself a pat on the back for every task you accomplish.

Author: Mika Editorial team| Reviewer: Dr. Christian Keinki

Sources:

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• Emotions and cancer. National Cancer Institute. (2023, August 15). https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/coping/feelings
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